Tuesday, March 8, 2016

5 Qualities to look for in a Friend: Imam Ghazali

5 Qualities to look for in a Friend:

From Imam Ghazali’s رحمه الله  Bidayatul Hidayah (The Beginning of Guidance):

You should first consider the stipulations of companionship and friendship so that you will establish the relationship of brotherhood only with those who are fit for brotherhood & friendship. 
The Messenger of God ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ  said:

A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” (Sunan Abu Dawud 4833-Sahih)

1) Intelligence

Sayyidina Ali رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه  said:

Do not be in the company of an ignorant friend; Beware of him & let him beware of you.
How often an ignorant man has brought destruction to a forbearing man who has befriended him.

2) Good Character

Do not be the companion of a man whose character is bad. He is one who is unable to control himself when he is angry and is excited when he desires something. 

3) Righteousness

Do not be the companion of a wicked man (Fasiq) who persists in major sin. This is because he who fears God does not persist in major sin, and he who does not fear God may cause you mischief.

Allah SWT commanded His Prophet (pbuh):
“Do not follow him whose mind We have caused to be neglectful of remembrance of Us and who follows his passions, and whose case exceeds all bounds.” (18:28)

Beware, then of association with a wicked man, because the constant sight of wickedness and sin will remove the dislike of sin from your mind & will create the feeling that sin is something light. The sinfulness of backbiting has become light to man’s mind for this reason and not for the reason that mind cannot understand it. If people see that a Muslim jurist is wearing a gold ring or a silkcloth, they strongly oppose it because they rarely see this, whereas they do not oppose backbiting even though it is a more serious sin, because they always see this.

4) Absence of greed

Companionship of a man greedy for the world is deadly poison, for human nature is such that the nature of one man tends to resemble that of another and to imitate it; indeed, a man’s nature steals the qualities of another man’s nature in such a way that he is not aware of it. Therefore, association with a greedy man will increase your greed, and association with the ascetics will increase your asceticism.

5) Truthfulness

Do not be the companion of a liar, for he is like a mirage: he will show that which is far as near to you and that which is near as far from you.”

Tuesday, March 1, 2016

Reasons for fearing Allah:

Reasons for fearing Allah: 

(By Imam Ghazali, Imam Ibn Qayyim and Ibn Rajab Hanbali )

The fear of death before repenting; 

the fear of not living up to one's repentance and breaking one's promise; 

the fear of not being able to fulfil Allah's obligations; 

the fear of losing one's softness in the heart and its hardening; 

the fear of losing consistency; 

the fear of allowing temptations to dominate; 

the fear of Allah making one's self responsible for doing goods deeds because of conceit; 

the fear of becoming arrogant and egotistical due to the abundance of bounties; 

the fear of being distracted from Allah by other creation; 

the fear of being led to an evil ending through excessive bounties; 

the fear of being punished early (i.e. in this world); 

the fear of being disgraced at the time of death; 

the fear of being beguiled by the glitter of this world; 

the fear of Allah revealing one's secret in one's state of oblivion; 

the fear of being stamped with a bad death at the time of death; 

the fear of the pangs of death; 

the fear of the questions of Munkar and Nakeer in the grave; 

the fear of the punishment of the grave; 

the fear of the horrors of the horizon (at the time of resurrection); 

the fear of the awe during the presentation in front of Allah; 

the fear and the shame of being naked (at the time of resurrection); 

the fear of being questioned about every little thing in life; 

the fear of the bridge (over Hell) and its sharpness; 

the fear of the fire, its chains and its torment; 

the fear of being deprived of Paradise, the Eternal and everlasting kingdom and abode and 

the fear of being deprived of seeing Allah's tremendous visage. 

May Allah protect us.

4 things to fear even after doing a Good Deed:

4 things to fear even after doing a Good Deed:

Faqih Samarkandi رحمه الله  says that the person who does one good deed should be weary of four things (imagine what a person who commits a sin should be afraid of): 

1. The fear of not being accepted because Allah says:`Allah only accepts from those who fear.' [Maidah: 27] 

2. The fear of showing off, for Allah says: `They have been instructed to worship Allah sincerely; religion is for him Alone.' [Bayinah: 5] 

3. The fear of preserving the good deed because Allah says: `Whoever brings a good deed shall have ten times its reward.' [An`am: 161] 

4. The fear of being deserted in performing good deeds, for Allah says: `My reconciliation (with good) is only through Allah; it is upon Him that I trust and it is to Him that I resort.' [Hud: 88]