Tuesday, August 29, 2017

The 4 Pillars of Noble Manners -

The 4 Pillars of Noble Manners -

Imam Abi Zayd al-Qayrawaanee (May Allah have mercy on him) says:
"The Hadiths of morals and manners have been combined into four narrations. They are:

1. The Prophet ﷺ  said: "Whoever believes in Allah and the last day then let him say (a word that is) good or be silent."

2. The Prophet ﷺ said: "From the goodness of a person's Islam is that he leaves off that which does not concern him."

3. The Prophet  ﷺ  said to the one who sought advice from him: "Do not become angry!"

4. The Prophet ﷺ said: "None of you (truly) believes until he loves for his brother, what he loves for himself."

Hence, these four narrations- are all from forty hadeeth of the narrations collected by Imam Nawawee (May Allah be pleased with him).

All of the Hadiths related pertaining to conduct, return back to these four narrations.
This benefits us (knowing) that whoever is given success toward the understanding of these narrations, as well as the application of them then verily the pillars of conduct will be gathered with him and that which they stand upon.

 Explaining The 4 Pillars of Noble Manners -

 The  first  pillar:  Safeguarding  the  tongue  and  its  evidence is  the  statement  of  the  prophet ﷺ :   “Whoever  believes  in  Allah  and  the  last  day,  then  let  him say  (a  word  that  is)  good  or  be  silent.”   This  is  the  first  pillar,  and  whoever  does  not  safeguard  his tongue  will  not  be  from  the  people  of  morals  and  manners.

Hence,  from  the  tremendous  foundations  and  strong supports  which  morals  and  manners  are  established upon…is  safeguarding  the  tongue. Meaning:  taking  it  into account  and  holding  it  back  from  speech,  except  for  what  is beneficial  in  it.

 So, the  prophet  ﷺ  said: “…then  let  him  speak  good  or  be  silent.” In  it  is  a  call  to  pondering  over  one’s  speech  prior  to speaking;  because  speech,  before  it  exits,  you  own  it…and when  it  has  exited  it  owns  you!  For  this  reason,  from  the beauty  of  an  individual  is  that  he  reflects  upon  his  statement before  he  speaks.

 The  second  pillar  from  the  pillars  of  morals  and  manners:
Distancing  oneself  far  away  from  meddling  and  being involved  in  what  does  not  concern  him;  and  that  the individual  does  not  delve  himself  into  what  does  not concern  him.
 
Thus,  the  meddling  person  will  not  be  one  of morals  and  good  manners,  because  his  meddling  and delving  himself  into  what  does  not  concern  him  removes him  from  good  manners  and  takes  him  outside  of  its boundary. 

However,  when  he  is  far  away  from meddling…he  is  far  away  from  entering  into  what  does  not concern  him.  Hence,  this  is  from  the  characteristics  of  good manners.  Rather  it  is  from  the  pillars  of  good  manners.  The proof  of  this  is  the  statement  of  the  prophet   ﷺ :   “From  the  goodness  of  the  person’s  Islam  is  that  he  leaves off  what  does  not  concern  him.”

 The  third  pillar  from  the  pillars  of  morals  and  good character:  the  avoidance  of  being  driven  by  human emotions,  in  particularly  anger. 

When  the  person  gets excited  and  he  becomes  angry,  upon  him  is  that  he  does  not proceed  at  the  time  of  his  anger.  Meaning  that  he  does  not carry  out  a  statement  or  an  action  because  any  statement  he carries  out  at  the  times  of  anger,  and  any  action  he  carries out  at  the  time  of  anger,  in  most  cases  will  be  away  from  the realm  of  morals  and  manners.  Surely,  it  has  been  said regarding  the  dispraise  of  anger  and  its  ugliness: “Anger…the  first  part  of  it  is  insanity  and  the  final  stage  is regret”.

 When  the  person  is  driven  by  his  emotions  and  by  his  anger this  is  conducive  to  falling  into  major  evils  and  many  actions where  its  end  results  are  not  praiseworthy. 

 The  fourth  matter  from  the  pillars  of  morals  and  good manners:  Soundness  of  heart;  that  is  there  will  not  be  in  the heart  of  the  person  any  jealousy,  malice,  grudges, resentment,  or  anything  like  this  from  the  diseases  of  the heart  and  its  illnesses.  

 “None  of  you  will  (truly)  believe  until  he  loves  for  his brother  that  which  he  loves  for  himself.”
 Hence,  this  is  the  narration  (used  as)  a  support  on  the  topic of  good  character.  When  the  person  has  reached  the  extent  of actualizing  this  narration,  and  he  has  gained  mastery  over this  narration,  then  he  will  safeguard  his  heart,  and  cleanse his  soul  from  evil  and  inner  corruption  .  Then  verily  he  –by the  permission  of  Allah-will  actualize  in  himself  good character  at  the  time  of  his  most  splendid  image  (i.e.  when he  is  physically  looking  his  best)  and  in  his  most  beautiful apparel.  He  ﷺ to  said  “None  of  you  truly  believe until  he  loves  for  his  brother  that  which  he  loves  for himself.” 
 
- taken from 'Noble Manners based on four pillars' by Sh Abdur Razzak Al Badr.

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Simplicity is a part of Faith

 "Simplicity is part of Faith":

Abu Umamah bin Tha'labah radi Allahu anhu reported: The Companions of Messenger of Allah sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned the life of the world before him. He sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam said,

 “Do you not hear? Do you not hear?
Simplicity (in life) is part of Faith, simplicity is part of Faith.”

Imams Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah (rahimahumallah) have recorded this narration. Hafiz Ibn Hajar (rahimahullah) has graded the Hadith authentic (sahih).

(Sunan Abi Dawud, Hadith: 4158, Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith: 4161. Refer: Fathul Bari, Hadith: 5926)

Explanation:

The Arabic word used in this Hadith is ‘البذاذة’ which refers to simplicity and humility in one’s dressing and food.

(Refer: footnotes of Shaykh Muhammad ‘Awwamah on Sunan Abi Dawud and Fathul Bari) from http://hadithanswers.com/simplicity-is-part-of-iman/ 

: قال المنذريّ رحمه الله:" ( البذاذة )_ بفتح الباء الموحّدة وذالين معجمتين _ هي: التّواضع في اللّباس برثاثة الهيئة، وترك الزّينة، والرّضا بالدّون من الثّياب "اهـ.

وقال الخطابي رحمه الله: " البذاذة: سوء الهيئة والتجوّز في الثّياب ونحوها، يقال: رجل باذ الهيئة إذا كان رثّ الهيئة واللّباس".

والمقصود من الحديث ما ذكره ابن الأثير رحمه الله في " النّهاية " فقال:" أراد التواضع في اللّباس وترك الافتخار به " اهـ.

 Humility in dress by having a dowdy (or simple) appearance, avoiding decoration and being content with inferior kinds of clothes​.

Overall​ purpose from what is intended from the hadīth is to have humility in one's dress and to avoid haughtiness.

Fashion vs Simplicity:

Another aspect of simple life style is to not get caught up in the fashion craze prevalent today.

The famous Sahabi ‘Amr Ibnul 'Aas, رضى  الله عنه  said,

«لا أملُّ ثوبي ما وسعني، ولا أملُّ زوجتي ما أحسنت عشرتي، ولا أملُّ دابَّتي ما حَمَلَتْني ؛ إنَّ الملال من سيِّىء الأخلاق».

“I will not get fed up with my clothes so long as they continue to fit me, and I will not get fed up with my wife so long as she is good to me, and I will not get fed up with my ride so long as it continues to carry me. A person who continually becomes bored with things has a deficiency in his character.” 

[From the book "Taareekh Dimashq"]

Monday, December 19, 2016

Duas for protection of Eeman and steadfastness on Deen

Duas for protection of Eeman and steadfastness on Deen up to the end of one’s life:

No one is safe from misguidance. So remember to constantly ask Allah to keep you on the straight path.

The Duas given below should be read daily for this purpose of protecting one's Imaan and Living and Dying on Islam:

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رَبَّنَا لَا تُزِغْ قُلُوبَنَا بَعْدَ إِذْ هَدَيْتَنَا وَهَبْ لَنَا مِن لَّدُنكَ رَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ الْوَهَّابُ

 "Our Lord, let not our hearts deviate after You have guided us and grant us from Yourself mercy. Indeed, You are the Bestower."
 [Qur’an- Surah Aal ‘Imraan 3:8]

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The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) often used to say:

«يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِي عَلَى دِينِك» 
(Yaa Muqallibal Quloob Thabbit Qalbee ‘alaa Deenik) 
“O Turner of the hearts, make my heart steadfast in adhering to Your religion.”
(Tirmidhi (2140), Ibn Majah; graded Sahih)
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The prophet ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ  said:

 اللَّهُمَّ مُصَرِّفَ الْقُلُوبِ صَرِّفْ قُلُوبَنَا عَلَى طَاعَتِكَ

Allāhumma Musarrif al-Qulūbi Sarrif Qulūbana 'alā Tā'atika
"O Allah, Turner of the hearts, direct our hearts to Your obedience."
(Sahih Muslim)
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The prophet ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ used to pray after salah:
 
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْكُفْرِ وَالْفَقْرِ وَعَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ 
"Allahumma inni a'udhu bika minal-kufri wal-faqri, wa 'adhabil-qabri 
(O Allah, I seek refuge with You from Kufr, poverty and the torment of the grave.)" (Nasai- Grade Hasan)
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The prophet ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ advised to recite:
اللهم اهدني، وسددني

Allahumma-hdini wa saddidni 

(O Allah! Direct me to the Right Path and make me adhere to the Straight Path)." (Sahih Muslim)
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Even Prophet Yusuf عليه سلم  prayed for death on Eeman:

تَوَفَّنِي مُسْلِمًا وَأَلْحِقْنِي بِالصَّالِحِينَ

"Cause me to die a Muslim and join me with the Righteous." (12:101)
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*Other important advice:*

Please notice in the above ayah that dying as a Muslim and being in the company of the righteous have been inter-linked. 
Similarly the Hadith mentions that a man is up on the Deen of his friend. (Sunan Abu Dawud-
الرَّجُلُ عَلَى دِينِ خَلِيلِهِ فَلْيَنْظُرْ أَحَدُكُمْ مَنْ يُخَالِلُ )

So, along with the Duas, we must be careful about the people we befriend and the company we adopt, in real life or online. 

And if one gets any doubts or misunderstands any aspect of Islam, he should discuss it with a good scholar as soon as possible so as to have certainty of faith and peace of mind.

May Allah protect us all from every misguidance. آمين يا رب العالمين 

Monday, October 24, 2016

Humility leads to Wisdom- Hadith

Humility leads to Wisdom:

The prophet ﺻﻠﯽ الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭﺍٓﻟﮧ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said : 
"There is not a son of Adam except that he has wisdom in his head that is in the hand of an Angel. So, if he becomes humble, it is said to the Angel: 'Raise his wisdom,' and if he becomes arrogant, it is said to the Angel: 'Throw away his wisdom.'
-Sahih Jami al Sagheer, 5675 (authenticated by Albani)

Friday, October 7, 2016

The best person and the pure heart according to the Prophet:

The best person and the pure heart:

Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was asked, ‘Which people are the best?’ He said, ‘Those with pure hearts and truthful tongues’. They said, ‘We know the meaning of truthful tongues, but what is pure hearts?’ Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) replied, ‘[It is that heart which is] having Taqwa (conscious of Allah), clean, sinless, and has no injustice nor envy or jealousy/malice’

-Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith: 4216.

Friday, September 30, 2016

IMPORTANCE OF CONTROLLING ONE'S ANGER

::: THE IMPORTANCE OF CONTROLLING ONE'S ANGER AND THE GREAT REWARD THEREIN :::

(1) The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, “Whoever controls his anger, Allah will protect him from his punishment.” 

[Ibn Abi Dunya, #21 and Iraaqi said it is Hassan in Al Mughni #2862 and Ibn Hajar agreed in Matalibul Aaliyah #3144]

(2) The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “Whoever suppresses his rage while able to unleash it, Allah will call him before the heads of creation on Qiyamah and inform that he can choose any of the Hoorul Ayn that he likes" [Tirmidhi #2021 and Hassan] & another version says, "..then Allah will fill his heart with contentment on the day of judgment." [Tabarani, 12/453 and Sahih according to Sahih al Jami’, #6518]

Al Mubarakfuri said that this applies to the one who can enact an action of anger and Ali al Qari commented, "If this is the reward for merely suppressing one's rage, then what about the one who joins that with pardoning his offender and adds ihsan towards him?" [Tuhfatul Ahwadhi]

(3) The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked what deed can distance one from the anger of Allah and he replied, "Do not become angry." 

[Musnad Ahmad, 2/175 & Sahih according to Ibn Hibban in Al Ihsan]

In another narration of Tirmidhi [Majma' al Zawa'id, 8/70], Abu Darda' asked, "Oh Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, show me an action that will enter me into Jannah" and he said, "Do not become angry and Jannah is yours." 

* The Sahabi Humayd Ibn Abdirahman said, "I reflected on this hadith and it struck me that anger comprises all of evil." (Jami' ulum wal Hikm, 234)

* A man asked Ibnul Mubarak to summarise all of good character into one phrase and he replied, "Give up anger" (Jami' ulum wal Hikm, 234) & Imam Ahmad, Ishaq bin Rahawayh and others explained that good character is in controlling ones anger. 

Ata' Ibn Abi Rabah said, "Nothing makes the people of knowledge weep at the end of their lives more than a fit of anger which ruins their work of 50, 60 or 70 years..." (Narrated in the Mawsu'at of Ibn Abi Dunya)

* Ibn Rajab al Hanbali explained "not getting angry" to be: "...It means that you should not act in accordance with your anger and instead struggle with yourself to give up putting it into effect and acting by what it commands." (Jami' ulum wal Hikm, 234)

* What should one do when he is angry to attain these rewards? Follow these steps in order:

[1] Respond to the one making you angry with good: As Ali al Qari explained, the reward is far greater when one responds with good. Hasan al Basri would make du'a ffor those people behaving ill towards him so much that his companions would say to him, "Oh Hasan, I wish to oppress you just so you make the same du'a for me as you do for those who oppress you."

[2] If you cannot do that, then seek refuge from Shaytan and make Wudoo' without acting upon your anger as many authentic ahadith tell us.

[3] If you cannot do the second option, then do not speak or act upon your anger: A marfu' narration from Ibn Abbas states, "When you become angry, say nothing" (Musnad Ahmad, 1/239) and Ibn Rajab said about this, "This is a great remedy for anger because words he utters in anger he will regret but if he is silent, all of it will pass him. Al Ijlee said, "I have never filled up right and spoken in anger that which i will later regret. This shows that the angry person is charged with the responsibility of being silent and not speaking." (Jamiulum wal Hikm, 237 - 242)

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Friday, September 16, 2016

Searching for one's own faults-the cure for self-admiration:

Searching for one's own faults-cure for self-admiration:

Ibn Hazm (rahimahullah) said:

“Whoever is tested with self-admiration, let him think of his faults; if he admires his virtues, let him think of his bad manners and attitude. If he cannot find any, to the point that he thinks that he has no faults, then he should realise that his problem is chronic and that he is the most imperfect of men, and he has the most faults and least discernment.

That is because he is feeble-minded and ignorant; and there is no fault worse than these two, because the wise man is the one who can see faults in himself and tries to overcome them, whereas the foolish man is the one who is ignorant of his own faults.”

[al-Akhlaaq was-Siyar (p. 71)]